YES, to the article and Evan’s comment. I’ve encountered such guys before, and I was telling a girlfriend just recently how I personally found them to be more infuriating and disappointing than your run-of-the-mill misogynist.
But sexism is insidious. All of us (females included) are born into a patriarchal society and, by that extension, are programmed from the get-go to think and act likewise to varying degrees, even despite our best intentions and efforts.
I remain hopeful though. Because I also told my friend how a guy close to me made some anti-feminist remark but sincerely came round after some explaining and sharing on my part:
Many male feminists are genuine, even if they’re not perfect. They will try and sometimes fail on their way to enlightenment. We care about the men in our lives, so we are happy to explain what they’ve done wrong. We will gently chide our guy friends for objectifying their female lovers…
Of course, not every woke misogynist is so deeply hypocritical, and not every confrontation with one is pointless or icky. One woman, who I’ll call Maya, was stunned and skeeved out after a professional male feminist with heteroflexible vibes initiated unsolicited degrading BDSM scenes in bed. Later, she gave him a talking-to: “You really need to be careful with your behavior,” she told him, and he wholeheartedly agreed. He hadn’t known the protocol—Ask first!—and later made it his business to learn it. “It was a real wakeup call for him,” she said.
So, girls, stay alert. And guys, take notes. And I guess, slowly lah — and hopefully eventually — this whole feminism/equality business: